Suddenly you're in love with everything...

So on my quest to blog EVERY single day, I don't always have much to say. Wonderful you say? Well that's why I have trusty friends with dreams and hopes that I can ask "what should I blog about?"

Ah.. the happy sea monkey couple after their aquatic wedding!

Today has some weird theme of weddings. everyone is talking about weddings. So when I randomly asked my friend Scott, "Hey Scott, what should I blog about?" he said "weddings". Which freaked me out.
Why? Well first off, little known fact, I was a wedding coordinator for three years. Seven weddings a weekend, ranging from 50 to 500 guests. Yes, sometimes I was the girl who'd march everyone down the isle, chasing after the bride fixing her train. Sometimes it felt like I was sending these people into the war of their life. "NO TIME NOW! GO! GO! GO!" It felt very much like a wedding factory. While parts of the job were fun, like seeing what wedding cakes they chose, what dress, flowers et cetera et cetera, I think it gave me an impression of weddings as mechanical socially accepted beasts.

I'm not against marriage, and I'm not against weddings. In fact every so often I would do a ceremony where I'd get a little choked up. Some people have a really beautiful partnership and I get that; I admire that. Other times you wonder what the hell the point was, that this was a divorce waiting to happen. In fact there would be about 3 weddings every Saturday and to think, at least at the time (though I've heard this has since lowered) one in three marriages end in divorce, it was a bit baffling.
I will be in a very big wedding next summer, a year, next week in fact. My first time as a bridesmaid (perhaps the last time.. ha.) Here are some lose interpretations about weddings that I have learned:

When she (or he) says...
"I don't have to have a big wedding"
She really means...
"If I can have a big wedding with all the bells and cinderella dress I will. But just to seem less demanding and princess like I'll say I don't have to"

When he (or she) says...
"All I want to do for the wedding is show up and pay some of the bill"
He REALLY means...
"I don't really want to get married, but I will if I have to."

What are my personal thoughts on weddings (NOT marriage but weddings)? Celebrating is a good thing. I think everyone should celebrate their partnership at some point. Not everyone likes a public display, so if joining up at city hall is your style and skipping to the honeymoon, celebrating in private with some champagne and strawberries then I think that is awesome. If inviting 500 of your 'closest' friends and throwing a huge party is your thing, then do it! I get it. Be happy. Not one thing makes everyone happy.

Personally, I don't have any preconceived notions about weddings. It's not something I ever really thought about for myself, so I suppose should that day arrive where I have to make choices and decisions regarding that, then it would very much depend on the relationship I am in. I do know that I wouldn't want it to be 'all me'. The best weddings I've seen have been a endearing showcase that reflects their partnership; both sides of the equation. He plays Marlilyn Manson, she plays Norah Jones etc. I love seeing that all come together, that part of the wedding is pretty sweet. :)